One of the most important things we can do is to know less and learn more. When you bring that to a debate, you will begin to develop trust.
By Paul de la Garza
While personal leadership may seem like an abstract and somewhat broad concept, it can be grounded into some very specific things that we need to learn about in terms of how we are conducting ourselves and our lives on a daily basis.
I’d like to offer you a definition of humility. Humility – the recognition that the people around us help complete us. If we pause and evaluate what that means, we will begin to recognize that there are a number of people out there that can teach us a great deal. Never has it been more important to recognize and put forth that concept in our lives today.
The fact of the matter is that with all of the events that have transpired recently, we may have lost one of the most precious skills that had a great deal to do with the formation of this country – true, honest, and constructive debate.
When two people debate in the way it was originally conceived, they used something called the “gem statement”. This statement is the one idea that all people in the debate agree on. When you identify the “gem statement” during a debate, you will always be guided by that beacon that unites you in the conversation.
One of the most important things we can do is to know less and learn more. When you bring that to a debate, you will begin to develop trust. Trust is the very essence of community and it is what unites and strengthens the very fabric of the people.
It is not up to our government to create this… it is up to us.
In this week’s Tip for Success, Paul de la Garza discusses personal leadership and shares a story which highlights how to promote joy within yourself and the people that surround you.
This Week’s Action Steps
Follow the action steps below each day this week to see a material and concrete shift in your personal leadership:
✔ Live your life in chapters. Live your life in chapters of three years. In three years, we can begin to structure something that will be able to give us a sense of purpose and a sense of direction. In those three years, include a commitment to service to the people to surround you.
✔ Put the gem statement into practice. Sit down with someone who has a contrasting opinion and identify what unites you. Identify how you may be approaching that particular problem in different ways but recognize that you both are compelled by that gem statement. This is sure to bring forth solutions.
✔ Begin to practice the art of compromise. When you have a conversation, consider the possibility of what would be your walk away position. Be clear about what you want to accomplish and be clear on what that other person is likely to want to accomplish and promote and protect that interest. The answer is going to be hybrid of two ideas that create extraordinary solutions that neither one of you would have ever thought of.