Self Esteem: Part II of the Mindset Series

We are the ones who are responsible for creating the reality that we face everyday. We do that through our mindset and behavior.

Leadership Development Coaching

By Paul de la Garza

Self-esteem is based on recognition of the innate qualities within you. As you begin to recognize, discover, and validate these innate qualities, this will have a direct impact upon how you choose to act in specific situations but more importantly on the way that you live your life. 

We are the ones who are responsible for creating the reality that we face everyday. We do that through our mindset and behavior. We train other people how to treat us through the behavior that we display. Our behavior has its root in self-esteem and self-esteem is rooted in self talk.

There will be situations that you have no control over. What you can do, however, is control how you respond. You can respond as a victim, or you can respond as an individual who is empowered by the recognition of the things that you have internally. This is a choice you have to make.

A victim declares themselves powerless predominantly because of self talk. The key thing here is to ask yourself these four questions:

Am I powerless in this situation?
Do I have the resources to be able to face this?
Am I investing energy in situations that I cannot influence?
Do I need to be refocusing on the things that I can influence?

Making these distinctions will help you to begin building your self-esteem.

This week is the third part of a 5-part series in which coach Paul de la Garza will discuss the components of mindset.

Stay tuned for Weekly Success Tips in the upcoming weeks to continue to develop your mindset for the new year.

In this week’s Tip for Success, Paul de la Garza discusses self-esteem which is the third part to the Mindset Series and shares a story which highlights how you can recognize the innate skills and qualities within you that will enable you to deal with just about any situation that you face.

This Week’s Action Steps

Follow these action steps below each day this week to see a material and concrete shift in your self-esteem and mindset:

Examine some of the most painful situations from your childhood. This is the age in which we start formulating a sense of self. If you remember a certain situation where you feel there was a painful exchange, go back and choose to release. Forgive the people that you felt were creating a negative sense of self. Forgive them and forgive yourself.

 Focus on providing value to the people around you. Anytime that you have an exchange with someone, focus on providing an element of value in anyway that you can. This will come right back to you.

Choose to eliminate the drama within your life. Drama is typically a product of ego where you choose to be offended and invest energy in things where you shouldn’t. Be cognizant of the here and now. Choose not to take things personally, not to be offended, and not to be hurt. This will serve to strengthen your character and self-esteem.

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